5 Reasons Why I have Considered Deleting Facebook (but can’t)

The original concept of Facebook was awesome: being able to connect with your college friends and then staying in touch as the years went on.

The operative word here being “original.” I am sorry to say that I was part of that generation that ruined Facebook. Once my generation came along, high schoolers realized there was another avenue of social media to let every stranger in the world know where they are, what they’re doing, and give them another opportunity to creep on them. I, having an older sister and knowing what Facebook was intended for, did not have one until I graduated high school and got into college. So I suppose I’ve always had somewhat of a distate for Facebook: and for as long as I’ve had one it’s only evolved into something I don’t want to use even more.

I’m not sure when games, obnoxious advertisements, and sharing to the 5th degree was ever intended to be integrated into social media. It was tolerable before, but with every new evolution of Facebook, it becomes increasingly intolerable. We’ve gone from the “poke” to Farmville to the point where I have seriously considered deleting it altogether.

I know what you’re thinking; why don’t you just delete your Facebook then and quit whining about it? Trust me, as much as I want to, it’s an addiction. It’s like knowing how terrible cigarettes are for you and not being able to quit. Facebook is my drug and social-media-cancer is my imminent death.

In the mean time, I’m going to whine about it. Here are 5 reasons why I have considered deleting my Facebook:

1. Procrastination
It’s our go-to method of avoiding homework, work, or doing anything productive in life. Even though you’ve convinced yourself that you won’t log on during exam week or you’ve deleted the app from your cell phone a thousands times, you somehow find yourself at the corner of “man I want to tell the world how much I love this song” and “but I really need to finish this project.” Who wins in the end? We all know the answer to that one.

2. It puts you in a bad mood

Or maybe it’s just me. Or maybe it’s all women. So many us fall victim to “virtual envy” and Facebook is our first avenue. How many times has this happened to you/your friend/your sister: You’ve been dating a guy for 6 years and have been waiting for him to propose for 5 and everytime another one of your friends gets engaged, you defriend them/block them from your newsfeed/immediately close out the notification. But it keeps popping up in your news feed because your friend’s-mother’s-sister also happens to be friends with her and she liked her status, “happily engaged! Can’t wait for the big day!” and there you are, at the bottom of a carton of Ben and Jerry’s.

Ok maybe I’m exaggerating. But only a little.

3. Judgement Central

When was the last time you stopped yourself from posting a picture because you didn’t want your Facebook “friends” to judge you and your life decisions? It’s because we’re friends with 1,000 people and only really know about 20 of them. I’d say don’t worry about that long lost relative or that old college roommate who didn’t know how to keep her music down, but then I’d be a hypocrite.

4. DRAMA! DRAMA! DRAMA!

Whether it’s “I cannot believe she defriended me” or your mother calling you at endless hours of the night because your dad’s sister’s husband’s sister in India whom you’ve never met in your life somehow came across a picture of your new boyfriend and *gasp!* he’s not Indian! And privacy settings? Who is Facebook trying to kid. If I had a dollar for someone who wasn’t supposed to see my Facebook that did I’d be rich enough to buy Facebook.

5. I don’t need to know about some giraffe somewhere being killed and fed to the lions.

Or accidentally coming across a video of baby chicks being shredded into McDonalds chicken nuggets. Facebook is everyone’s hub to mandatorily make people read what they have to say or watch the videos they post as their friends scroll through their newsfeed. ¬†And who’s brilliant idea was it to automatically play videos? “That way, as people scroll across them when they’re in a doctors office and they accidentally leave their volume on, everyone will stare at them as an obnoxious blonde chick is screaming out of their phone or a monkey is humping it’s girlfriend! It’s brilliant!” And don’t even get me started on Bit Strips.

Oh yeah- and defriending those friends that post stupid stuff like this doesn’t work either. Because as long as someone you know liked a post, you can see things from people you don’t even know (half the time I swear I don’t even know the liker). And honestly, I don’t need to see what your mother’s-sister’s-friend’s-plumber posted, liked, or shared on Facebook because usually something depressing, offensive, or stupid. Once in a while I’ll come across something pretty awesome! But then the next thing will be back to ridiculousness and it’s not even worth it.

Maybe a total deletion of Facebook is pretty harsh. Maybe I’ll just have 10 Facebook friends and a waiting list and the minute one of them does something stupid, they’re out and the next one is in.

Beware my friends.

Much luv,
Avi

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15 Ways to Start Eating Right Right Now

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Over the past couple months, I have been on a health craze. As I mentioned in my previous post (10 Ways to Get out of your Workout Slump) I gained a lot of weight throughout college and one of my first goals once I graduated was to lose that extra weight. I had the workout part down, I just needed to find the discipline to eat right! Well, 13 weeks later and I have lost tons of weight! And let me tell you, it is the best feeling in the world when people go from asking you why you’re doing it to asking you how you did it!

I have heard so many statistics about “dieting is 80%/90%/160% of it!” Well, regardless of the statistic, the point is it doesn’t matter how many crunches you do or how many times you go to Zumba a week, you’ll never see your hipbones until you change your diet! The best part: once you start eating right, you’ll gain so much energy and motivation, the rest comes so easy! Then comes the best part: feeling so good in your skin and getting to go SHOPPING to dress it up! YAY!

I tried not to include the typical suggestions that we see everywhere, but these are honestly the tips that worked for me. I hope they help you!

1. It’s not a diet; it’s a LIFESTYLE change
For whatever reason, the word “diet” has developed a discouraging connotation and the minute we say we’re on a diet, all of those thoughts like *no carbs* and *i can’t eat that* and not to mention all those past diet failures come back. So by telling yourself you’re on a diet, you’re already setting yourself up for failure. BUT if you think of it as a lifestyle change and you’re working towards being healthier, instantly it’s a new ball game. Tap into your subconscious and pass on this subtle message and watch how much easier it is to eat right! Next time someone asks “want a deep dish chocolate chip cookie?” don’t respond with “I can’t, I’m on a diet.” Instead simply say “no,” because deep down it’s not the diet that stopped you, but your new lifestyle of eating right!

2. Treat everyday like a new day
So maybe you showed a moment of weakness and ate poorly yesterday. Today is a brand new day and you get to start from scratch! If you dwell on the fact that you “cheated” it’s easy to give up and stop eating right and wash away all of the progress you’ve made. So get up, eat an awesome breakfast, and forget about it!

3. Work out in the morning
After you’ve slaved away for hours at the gym or really gave your 100% at your aerobics class you’re not going to want to throw all of that away with that cookie. So not worth it! I’m not sure who came up with the phrase “I work out hard so I can eat like a pig.” It never made sense to me!

4. Drink water
Seems simple enough but there’s a logic behind it. Constantly having a bottle of water by your side will prevent you from reaching for that salty/sweet/crappy snack and will, more importantly, keep you full. Our body often times confuses hunger with thirst and dehydration. So keep drinking water so you don’t eat useless meals and snacks. Also try drinking a glass of water before each meal and you’ll eat less! 0 calories and so good for you: you can’t go wrong! You should drink 8 glasses which is about 2 liters every day. I find it easiest to keep a 1 liter bottle with me so I know I just need to drink two of them each day.

Oh yeah, and ditch the soda!!! Seriously, this stuff is total crap! One time my car wouldn’t start and the guy that came to fix it bought a bottle of coke and poured it all over my car battery to erode all the crap from it. That is the kind of crap people put into their bodies! GROSS! Diet soda is not any better: aspartame is even worse because it is a sugar like substance that makes your brain think you are eating sugar so it still releases the hormone to process it and when your body doesn’t use it, it turns to fat! There is nothing good about this stuff so make the switch to water!

5. Eat breakfast
Yes, it’s the most important meal, you already know that. But check this out for yourself. I’ve found from experience that if I skip breakfast I get this insatiable hunger the rest of the day. So basically, no matter what I eat for lunch I still feel hungry! This makes me eat more and I feel awful all day. Eat an awesome meal for breakfast and you’re set for the day!

6. Eat at home as much as possible
I recently moved home from college (land of the late night Taco Bell runs and Pad Thai every night!) and just eating at home and not eating out all the time has shed so many pounds. Restaurants are notorious for giving you way too much food, using tons of butter, and other unhealthy ingredients. How many times have you thought, “I’ll just eat Mexican and have a healthy salad,” but then they put that basket of chips and some salsa in front of you and before you know it, you’ve finished the basket and you don’t even know how many you ate! Not to mention all of that bread at Italian restaurants. For as much as you’ve paid there, you could have made a healthy meal for your entire family.

7. Make it easier to make good decisions
This means get rid of all of those crappy food and sugary drinks lurking in your fridge and pantry. If you only give yourself great options, you won’t have a choice but to eat right! Also, make it just as easy to reach for broccoli as it is to reach for a bag of chips! Cut it up and put it in the fridge so all you have to do is open up the box and enjoy!

8. Explore your spice rack
It’s amazing what a world of a difference some salt, pepper, cayenne pepper, etc., make on veggies. They instantly take bland food to a whole new level to where you won’t even miss those cookies! (Watch out for some spices like Mrs. Dash’s grilling spices which are full of sodium. I’m talking basic spices like chili powder, cumin, etc.)

9. Make your own!
I was surprised at how easy it is to make peanut butter, almond butter, applesauce, jam, juices and other things. When you make these things at home, you know exactly what is going in it and, as a result, into your body. It also avoids all those extra sugars and preservatives and you know there are real ingredients in it! I recently got a juicer and I’m so in love with it! The juice tastes 10 times better, it’s fresh and without all that extra sugar! It’s an instant boost of healthy and keeps you eating well the rest of the day.

10. Keep it interesting
There is nothing worse than eating an egg white omelette every morning for a week and then getting sick of it (trust me on that one!). Keep it interesting and change it up! Keep your pantry stocked with oatmeal, cereal (like Special K, not Cocoa puffs!), and deli meats to change up your meals. Also, look up some awesome recipes through Pinterest! It is the hub of yummy healthy recipes!

11. Keep yourself satiated
Don’t let yourself go hungry! This is when we make the WORST decisions! Think about the last greasy cheeseburger you ate. What led you to it? I can tell you the last time I wandered into Five Guys for my little bacon cheeseburger and Cajun fries it was 2pm and I hadn’t eaten anything yet that day. I was starving and wasn’t thinking straight.

12. Just have a bite
Who doesn’t love decadent, chocolatey brownies? But you’ve been so good today! What’s one brownie going to do? Listen carefully: take one tiny bite and then walk away to resist all temptation to eat the rest! You’ll be happy you did. Plus, I’ve found that taking a smaller bite of something tastes better than the entire brownie anyways!

13. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself
So often we stress ourselves out over our lifestyle changes. Recording everything in journals and calorie counting apps, not eating carbs, stopping ourselves from that one M&M, and not having that glass of wine while our friends are having fun. We are all human! If you stop yourself from being happy, it’s easy to resent yourself, your new lifestyle, and stop altogether. It’s ok to indulge once in a while. Just get back on track tomorrow!

14. No Carbs After Dinner!
I honestly think this has been the key to my success! Here’s how the science works: our body naturally uses carbs for energy and when it can’t find any, it moves on to fat! (This is how the Atkin’s diet works.) Depriving our body of carbs entirely is just not healthy, but when we only do it for dinner and instead eat a ton of protein, all night long our body is naturally burning fat! For me personally: I eat a spicy omlette filled with veggies for dinner! YUMMMM!

15. Ask yourself, “will this nourish my body?”
Here is a foreign concept to me: eating for nourishment? I was always eating for pleasure because I thought something would taste good, etc. (skinny chocolate brownies anyone?). This was a concept my best friend introduced me to. He would say this to me every time I proposed some skinny recipie, but I never understood it until recently. Sure those skinny brownies are a great alternative to the crappy 500 calorie brownies you could have eaten, but that doesn’t make them good for you. Instead of filling yourself up on dishes to replace what you would have eaten for dessert, load up on things that will actually nourish your body, like broccoli!

Here’s some good news: The more you eat right, the easier it gets. Take it from me! I had the BIGGEST sweet tooth (and still do) but it has toned down a LOT since I have started this lifestyle change. You would never hear me turning down an offer to get frozen yogurt, but it’s gotten a lot easier to do so! You get to a point where at first it’s because you don’t want to ruin your progress. Then it turns into just because its not appealing anymore. It’s great!

I hope this advice helps you as much as these tips have changed my life! Good Luck & Much Love,
-Avi

10 Ways to Get Out of your Workout Slump and Stick With it!

I am the QUEEN of the workout slump. I have always been an active dancer since I was a little girl, but unfortunately once I went on to college I had to give that up. I tried joining dance groups on campus, but between the overload of school work and transferring Universities, it was difficult. By the time I was a Junior, my metabolism had caught up with me and I had noticeably gained weight. I made a conscious decision that I had to start excercising. The only problem: other than dancing, I had no idea how to work out. Over the next three years, I had gone through so many workout slumps I can’t even count.

But somehow over the past semester of school and now that I’ve graduated, something has clicked. I am finally out of the workout slump and I’m on the longest workout track of my life! In the process, I have learned a ton of lessons that I’d love to share with you all that will hopefully lead you all out of your workout slumps, assist you in your fit lifestyle, and help you out!

1) Find something you love
This is the number one thing that brought me out of my workout slump. I tried the treadmill, I worshipped the stairmaster, I did everything in the gym and I just wasn’t loving it. Worst of all, I wasn’t motivated to come back other than the pure motivation of changing my body, which wasn’t changing. Then I found ZUMBA. As a dancer, this was something that came so naturally to me and I absolutely fell in love! I would go a couple times a week and I was addicted.

Even if you’re not a dancer, make sure whatever it is that you’ve decided to pursue for excercise is something you love. If you love to run and the treadmill isn’t doing it for you, run outside! If you love to bike but can’t seem to motivate yourself hard enough on the stationary bike, try a spinning class (which is also super fun!). If you are having fun, I promise it won’t feel like a workout, you’ll get addicted, and you’ll be out of your slump in no time!

2) Try a workout class
Aside from Zumba, there’s spinning class, yoga class, water aerobics, and the list goes on and on depending on your gym! There are so many advantages of going to a class: you’re surrounded by people working out with you which keeps you motivated, you’re looking to a professional instructor to see what to do instead of having to rely on yourself, most gyms have these classes a couple times a week so you can keep going and its a new outlet to make friends (or bring your friends!) with the same goals as you.

3) Don’t be so hard on yourself
Goals are good, but putting too much pressure on yourself is not. When you look back and realize you only worked out twice this week instead of your goal of five, or you had two cheat meals instead of one, these negative thoughts build and it’s very easy to be discouraged and stop working out altogether. So maybe you didn’t get a chance to go to the gym this week, use that as positive motivation to get yourself into the gym next week instead of being negative and putting yourself down.

4) Eat right
There is nothing more discouraging than working out super hard but feeling like it’s not working. If you feel like this, there’s a good chance it’s because you haven’t changed your diet. Working out is only 20% of it, the rest is what you eat!

But here’s what I’ve found about eating right: Eat what you love!That’s not to say, you love McDonalds so eat McDonalds, but don’t try to make yourself eat Quinoa if you don’t like it. Not only will this discourage you from dieting and eating right, but making yourself eat things you don’t like will tempt you to eat that Thai food you love or be tempted by $2 burger night. Then you’re back to square one and you’ll think “well, why workout now?”

5) Weigh yourself?
Well, that’s for you to determine. I know studies show that people who weigh themselves experience faster weight loss. But personally, this isn’t motivating for me. After a week or two and I see no change in the scale (sometimes seeing it even go up!) is anything but encouraging. I was being so hard on myself, until finally one of my good friends suggested to stop weighing myself and just base my progress on how I feel and how my clothes fit. I listened, and it worked. I was more motivated and after a month or so, I weighed myself and couldn’t believe my progress! But if the scale encourages you, then use it! Just remember that there are times of the day when the scale will say you weigh more than you do; the best time to weigh yourself is in the morning when you first wake up.

6) Reward yourself, but don’t restrict yourself
Ok, my favorite food on the planet is Pad Thai from this Thai restaurant down the block. I know it is so incredibly bad for me, but I love it so much. In the past, I have tried to restrict myself from eating it to stay true to my diet. Then I would have it once, realize once again how much I love it and how much I hate this diet, and then be back to square one and give up my diet entirely. This time I realized I don’t need to cut myself off entirely. Instead, I only eat half of it and give it to someone else. So instead of cutting yourself off from your favorites, just cut back. If you’ve had a good week, maybe share a plate of your favorite four cheese pasta with your friend so you don’t resent your diet later.

7) Don’t let others put you down
So often we, especially women, look for affirmation from others that our lifestyle changes have been working. Trust me on this, I’m Indian. The first thing a family member says when they see you after a while is either “you lost weight!” or “wow you gained weight,” nothing else and nothing in between. So when you feel like you’ve lost weight and someone makes no comments about your weight loss or that you’ve gained weight, it’s very discouraging. And then when you ask them if they’ve noticed and they say no, that’s almost even more discouraging. But here’s what you have to keep in mind: you are doing this for yourself! Who cares what people think or if they notice? Don’t let this put you down!

8) Check out Pinterest!
Believe it or not, Pinterest is the mothership of workouts, recipes, inspirational quotes, playlists, and anything else you need to motivate yourself. Download the app or check out the website and explore! But be careful: the fitness section is filled with pictures of gorgeous women who are in super shape and at first you may say “I want to look just like that” but eventually you may be discouraged by it and say, “I’ve been working out for months and look nothing like that.” Keep in mind, a lot of these women eat nothing but dry chicken breast and broccoli. Not to mention, there is a magical weapon called Photoshop! I know I was victim of these pictures for a while and it’s not fun! So try to ignore these things as much as possible on Pinterest, and in all of those Fitness magazines and such.

9) Track your progress and REFLECT
Whether through a diary or a blog, it’s always great to see how far you’ve come. But more importantly, reflect on why you are trying to lose weight to begin with. You’ll find a lot of internal motivation if you make a list of reasons why you want to lose weight. To look good in your New Years dress? To look great at your friend’s wedding? Or is it because you want to feel good and healthy? Then when you are feeling discouraged, take a look through your journal, progress, and reasons and you’ll be back on track.

10) Make your goal intangible
For example, as a shopaholic, I have a “goal dress” that I want to look great in! Just like that, if you’re not motivated by numbers, use goals like this to motivate yourself! Track your progress by trying on your dress (or whatever it is) here and there to see how far you’ve come! It’s a neat way to motivate yourself!

Losing weight is not easy! But staying motivated to keep going is sometimes even more difficult. I hope some of these tips motivate you and keep you on track!

Good luck! Much luv,
-Avi