Timelines, Deadlines, & Holiday Cheer

Halloween is over. Thanksgiving is next week. Black Friday is next Friday (yes, in my world, Black Friday is a national holiday!), and Christmas is almost a month away. And yet, the social standard for starting to listen to Christmas music is still days away.

The day after Halloween, I changed my Facebook status and posed the question, “Halloween is over! Can I play Christmas music yet?” I proceeded to gain responses such as “No. The day after Thanksgiving,” and even “PLEASE PLEASE PLEASEEEEEEEE NOT YET!”

Well guess what? I don’t care. I started playing Christmas music that day. In fact, as I changed my status, I was bouncing off the walls in my Christmas hat and Rudolph nose singing Santa Baby.

Not really, but I would have if I had a Rudolph nose.

What drives us to make these kinds of silly restrictions on things that make us so happy? I look forward to Christmas all year long, starting as early as December 26th! Christmas is my favorite holiday and the Holidays are my favorite time of year. It pains me to realize that there are people out there that are literally begging me to not play Christmas music until less than a month before Christmas.

I for one sincerely dislike this mindset. Spreading Holiday cheer is one of my favorite things to do towards the end of the year. But since there is something odd about dressing up as Tinkerbell and singing Here Comes Santa Claus, I at least wait until after Halloween.

But November 1st is my holiday launch date. And this year I have stretched out the holidays as much as possible and am proud of it!

Unfortunately, this isn’t the only timeline we put on life. We have set deadlines for ourselves in so many respects:
We must take 4 years to graduate college.
By the time we graduate, we must figure out what career we want to pursue.
Once we pursue said career, we must find someone and be married by our late twenties.
If it doesn’t work out with said someone, we must be single for a certain number of months/years before getting into another relationship.
We must be in said relationship for a certain amount of time before we can marry them.
Once we’re married, we must have our first child before we’re 30.
And the timeline continues for said child.

This is the logic that drives us to unhappiness: pursuing careers we don’t want, marrying people we don’t love, dismissing those that we could love for a lifetime, bearing children we’re not ready for, and leading a life we don’t want. And for what? Because we are afraid of someone somewhere judging us for our decisions or begging us not to make them.

How unfortunate.

Here is what I have realized:

Life is too short for restrictions. We have to follow our heart, for our heart knows no boundaries.

Because here is the reality: life happens when you least expect it, not when you plan it. The one and only timeline we have starts the moment we are born to the moment we die. The rest of the time in between is your gift, your time, your life. Spend it wisely, spend it in a way that’s going to make you and you alone happy. No one and nothing else matter.

What a crime it would be to let a deadline stop your happily ever after.

So here’s what I say: throw on your Santa hat and reindeer boots, deck the halls with holiday cheer, and blast Jingle Bells from the rooftops. Better yet: sing it at the top of your lungs.

Welcome to life. There are no timelines.

Sometimes That’s all it Takes

Sometimes all you need is for someone to believe in you.
Sometimes that’s all it takes.
Then you feel the confiedence to achieve your dreams
and that you can do anything.

Funny how life works sometimes, isn’t it? You could have all the confidence in the world in your abilities and yet, you can still find some mental road block. But then someone can come along and make you realize how special you really are and how you are capable of so much more than you think.

And with a flick of their hand sending you on your way, you can’t help but feel on top of the world.

Because somone believes in you.

And now you believe in you too. Even more than you did before.

Everyone deserves someone like that. I’m so happy to have found mine.

Life, Time, & Happiness

What makes life so difficult to enjoy? Why is it that the instant we find something incredible, instead of enjoying it moment by moment, we can’t help but be afraid we may lose it? And even if we want to be happy right then and there, we can’t shed the lingering feelings of anxiety, preemptive remorse, and potential heartbreak.

When our favorite season comes along, we can barely enjoy the snowflakes because we think about how quick a snowfall lasts. Even through a snow storm, we count the snow days until we have to get back to our real lives.

When the holidays come along, the days fly by so quickly, it’s hard to even enjoy being with family because we know the holidays don’t last forever.

When we meet someone new, we’re afraid of every move we make, every thing we say, because we don’t want to lose them.

Is this because of life’s conditioning? Are we so used to losing great things in our lives that when another great thing comes along we thing it will be taken away also? I don’t think so.

It’s because moments in life don’t last long enough. Time moves so slowly when we’re apart from the ones we love, and when we’re with them, moments move in milliseconds. We know it’s impossible to freeze time, yet somehow time has figured out a way to manipulate itself as it wishes. How do we stop it?

We enjoy every single possible second as much as we possibly can. We beat time at it’s own game.

That’s why we must dance in the snow as if it will last all year.  Laugh with our families like the holidays never end. And love who we’re with like we’ll never get our heart broken.

It’s a tough thing to do, but what a shame it would be to live any other way.

For this is the meaning of lifetime happiness.